The Essence and Balance of Desire
CR: I’ve been pondering desire, its essence and its forms. There are positive, the negative and the natural everlasting state of perpetual desire. I think the concepts of desire deserve more than a passing glance. It’s worth contemplating where there is value in desire and different degrees and flavors.
One aspect of desire is that it is instinctive and natural. When we look around at nature, we can see that for survival. All living things, desire food, water, rest and reproduction. Human desire is often criticized when it comes to ones that are connected to expectations, attachments, addictions.
We will never be free of having desires, but we can be free from the need to have your desires met. We do not suffer from the desires we suffer because we feel we have to have them met. It is possible to have many desires but not suffer over them. The value of desire is that it provides contrast. It is the contrast that makes growth visible where it might otherwise not be seen. On the other hand, we do not want develop an addiction to desire. Let’s not resign ourselves to it being any particular outcome.
DS: I agree that our desires are instinctive and natural but we can also use them as a guidepost to stir us to new directions. Desire requires interiority. Just like the rose’s desire to make our garden beautiful we also have many desires to satisfy ourselves and spread our light and love in the world. For instance, while working with the rose bush in my garden if I hurry to compete the pruning so I can admire the roses then this activity is out of balance. I cannot feel its spaciousness and thus neglect my soul’s need of the interiority of desire. What I am saying is that desire itself has something interior and magical associated with the secrets of the heart.
CR: Yes, we can use desire as a guidepost not only to steer us in new directions. It is a reminder to stay focused on what we do want and not on what we don’t want.
We can productively use desire without becoming a slave to it but allowing it to serve us. We are deserving of all our desires.
Sometimes, I find myself actually enjoying the mental, physical and emotional short-term challenges associated with desire. For example: desire for something external can bring on temporary challenges that are stimulating because they also bring out creative thinking. This often results in accelerated transformation and feels quite empowering. So maybe it isn’t that we want our life to always be filled with desires for something external. Instead we enjoy the challenge, achievement, and transformational cycle.
DS: Indeed, our soul is composed by currents of longing, passion, compassion and love. We continuously search for various ways to satisfy our thirst for life. The question is how we purify our desires from fantasy and lust and remain within the polarities of the desire itself. One way is to sense the dynamic flow of desire itself and what we attach to it. This requires balance and discernment. In order to purify our soul from the suffering of personal desires that might not be fulfilled we need to use our imaginative consciousness. This means allowing our selves to become vessels for our desires to flow.
We simply concentrate on the essence of desire and not the desire itself and move into the domain of the unknown. For instance, in either case I will happy if I get what I want or desire and equally happy if I don’t.
CR: YES, our ego will not have the true answers about desire and fulfillment, but essence does. Essence’s answer, does not come to us in words, but essence always answers in the present moment. It is essence that moves us forward toward a more meaningful life, filled with new experiences. These may be ones that don’t necessarily fulfill our desires but fulfill us on much deeper levels. Essence desires all, remains open to all, expects no-thing. It is a space where we are able to remain in a state of perpetual desire. I liken this to the essence of feeling worthy and deserving of all that life has to offer us simply because we exist.
This higher state of desire is a calling to explore all the divine gifts that the Universe has to offer us. It might feel like stepping up to the most delicious buffet of life where we get to choose whatever we want. Perhaps the manifestation of perpetual desire is more than what is gained materially. It is about the journey towards the expression of our ever-evolving soul. This form of desire is propelling us forward into life experiences that are required for a higher evolution of consciousness.
……Love and Light, Christina and Dimitrios
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Born in Toronto, Canada, Christina is a Holistic Life Coach and Energy Psychologist. She is also an accomplished author, speaker, and facilitator, hosting workshops, seminars and lectures in North America and Internationally. Following a successful career as an entrepreneur, mentor and coach, she made a conscious choice to shift her focus to one she was passionate about and one with a stronger bottom line than simply commerce for commerce sake. Over the past fifteen years she has developed her own programs for assisting others in the process of self-discovery and personal transformation. The Writing on Our Walls is one such program. Working from her clinic and training facility she continues to share her methodologies and techniques mentoring and supporting others to take responsibility in reaching their full potential while guiding them towards enjoying a joyful and happy life.
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